It Is Okay For Victims To Feel Victimized
So you have been abused. So you have been wronged, cheated, seduced and molested, spiritually raped. Don’t expect to shrug it off in a week or two, and feel fine afterwards. My own personal experience is that it took me 1½ years to feel normal, after my 10 years in the AOL cult. Several friends of mine report the same recovery time, or longer. And if you read books about cults, they will tell you that it is quite normal to be several years in recovery.
Listen very carefully: If you are a victim of abuse, it is okay to feel victimized!
The standard AOL counterphrase to people who share their stories of abuse by Ravi Shankar and his organisation, on this blog and on this one, is: “So you feel let down. So what? Move on! Stop your pathetic whining!”
That is like telling a rape victim that “you probably asked for it yourself.” The victim is made into the perpetrator. The abuse is ignored, because you happen to be friends with the rapist.
These people are denying us the right, as victims, to feel victimized. That is unacceptable. I reclaim that right, on behalf of all of us who fell into the sticky embrace of Ravi Shankar, and all the other Bad Gurus.
Without realizing the full extent of the abuse inflicted upon you, you can never Move On.
Be a victim, for as long as you need. And then Move On.