Concerned Boyfriend – Please Help
By Concerned Boyfriend
I am currently dating a really nice girl from India whom I care about rather deeply. I kept my distance of the AOL activities as they weren’t frequent and she seemed to accept that I was not interested. I did attend one AOL event and was instantly turned off by the people I met there and honestly felt that they were not my kind of people. Well, push came to shove and I was asked to look into it.
When you look for any information of substance it leads to the critiques of the AOL as opposed to the meaningless fluff of the official venues. The critical versions of the art of living seem much more true than the fluff versions and so I thank you for creating and maintaining this blog and for all of the contributors, the pro-AOL folks as well as they provide the fluff that instantly turned me from my single AOL event. Any person that will lie to themselves about being happy can and will lie to me and so I can’t trust them. True happiness is easy to see.
I would very much like to extricate her from this cult and am willing to invest the time for her and for myself but I am not sure how to do it. What are the pressure points? What is it that will create the crack of doubt in his Holiness and all that BS grace talk? I feel that the truth and sense will win with time but I realize it will take time and a critical mind on her part. How can I trigger the critical thought? What is it that helped others? I guess I am just asking for help because most of what I see is about convincing yourself whereas I want to convince somebody else. Any help would be appreciated.